All the bullying experts will say that bullying occurs where there is an imbalance of power. Bullies want to dominate you. They want to exercise power over you. They want to feel that they WIN and they want the satisfaction of seeing you LOSE. Think of it as a game. It's a game about winning and losing. So, if you are being verbally bullied a...
Mental Health Awareness Week 9th-15th May
Loneliness and Mental Health This week is Mental Health Awareness Week, and its focusing on the link between Loneliness and poor mental health. We can all feel lonely from time to time. It' a normal human emotion, something that everyone experiences. Maybe we have been spending too much time on our own? Or havn't seen...
Preventing the effects-positive friendships
Good friends are like stars. You do not always see them, but you know they are always there"We are all the same and we are all different-what great friends we will be" "Kindness is the key to Friendship Friendships and Bullying Healthy friendships are a protective factor against bullying. Even if you just have one friend, you are le...
Preventing the effects of Bullying-Being Assertive 2
In the last post on being assertive we looked at the difference between being passive, aggressive and assertive. We also looked at some of the feelings that might be around and make it more difficult to be assertive. So lets pick up on that in this post today. Feelings that can stop you being assertive 1. Feeling Scared When t...
Preventing the effects of Bullying: Be Assertive
If you are being bullied, how you respond to the bully is important as it could determine whether they continue to pick on you in the future. If you are passive and make no attempt to stand up for yourself, you communicate to the bully that they have an invitation to walk all over you anytime they want. You don't want to give that message do ...
Preventing the effects of Name Calling-The Grenadier Guard
Have you heard of the saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me?" It's not true is it? Being called names can be hurtful, it can be upsetting. However, the skill to develop is to not show how upset and angry you are to the bully and to not become a victim to those feelings yourself. A common way of bullying is verba...